...
IDD_HILFE DIALOGEX 0, 0, 316, 118
STYLE DS_SETFONT | DS_MODALFRAME | DS_FIXEDSYS | WS_POPUP | WS_CAPTION | WS_SYSMENU
CAPTION "Dialog"
FONT 8, "MS Shell Dlg", 400, 0, 0x1
BEGIN
    DEFPUSHBUTTON   "OK",IDOK,259,97,50,14
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,17,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "F1: Neues Spiel",IDC_STATIC,19,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "F2: Pause(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "F3: Schneller",IDC_STATIC,19,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "F4: Langsamer",IDC_STATIC,19,67,119,8
    LTEXT           "F5: Sound(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,81,119,8
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,173,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "J oder Cursor left:links",IDC_STATIC,175,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "L oder Cursor right: Rechts",IDC_STATIC,175,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "K oder Cursor Down: Linksdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "I oder Cursor Up: Rechtsdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,67,119,8
    LTEXT           "Space: Stein fallen lassen",IDC_STATIC,175,81,119,8
END
...

Der Teil der Resourcedatei ist übrigens mit Visual Studio erstellt, allerdings hab ich sonst ein paar Probleme mit Visual Studio, daher hab ich den Teil der oben zu sehen ist einfach rauskopiert und in die Resourcedatei meines Projektes kopiert. (es handelt sich übrigens um ein Projekt zum lernen von DirectX mit der Win API und/oder Dialogen hatte ich noch nicht viel zu tun...)
und aufgerufen wirds hier:

...
 case WM_COMMAND:
            switch(LOWORD(wParam))
            {
                case IDM_CLOSE:
                    SendMessage(hwnd, WM_DESTROY, wParam, lParam);
                    break;
                case ID_INFO_HILFE:
                case IDM_HELP:
                    DialogBox(UltrisInstance, MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDD_HILFE), UltrisWindow, helpdialog);
                    break;
            }
            break;
...

Ich hoffe ihr könnt mir helfen:)

#include <windows.h>
#include "resources.h"
#include "ressource.h"
#include "Sounds.h"
#include "Display.h"
#include "forms.h"
#include <fstream>

HINSTANCE UltrisInstance;
HWND UltrisWindow;
HMENU UltrisMenu;
const int UltrisNettoHoehe = 520;
const int UltrisNettoBreite = 360;
int UltrisBruttoHoehe;
int UltrisBruttoBreite;
Sounds sounds;
Display display;
int testform;
std::ofstream debug("Debug.txt");
BOOL CALLBACK helpdialog(HWND hwnd, UINT message, WPARAM wParam, LPARAM lParam)
{
    switch(message)
    {
        case WM_COMMAND:
            switch(LOWORD(wParam))
            {
                case IDOK:
                    EndDialog(hwnd, wParam);
                    return TRUE;
            }
            break;
    DefWindowProc(hwnd, message, wParam, lParam);
    return FALSE;
    }
}
LRESULT CALLBACK WindowProcedure (HWND hwnd, UINT message, WPARAM wParam, LPARAM lParam)
{
    switch(message)
    {
        case WM_COMMAND:
            switch(LOWORD(wParam))
            {
                case IDM_CLOSE:
                    SendMessage(hwnd, WM_DESTROY, wParam, lParam);
                    break;
                case ID_INFO_HILFE:
                case IDM_HELP:
                    DialogBox(UltrisInstance, MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDD_HILFE), UltrisWindow, helpdialog);
                    break;
            }
            break;
        case WM_DESTROY:
            PostQuitMessage(0);
            break;
        case WM_KEYDOWN:
            switch(wParam)
            {
                case 84:
                //T - Test
                    testform = (testform+1)%35;
                    PostMessage(hwnd, WM_PAINT, 0, 0);
                    break;
            }
            break;
        case WM_PAINT:
            int variante, x, y, z;
            const form *f;
            display.Background();
            for(variante = 0; variante < 4; variante++)
            {
                z = 1 + 5*variante;
                f = ultris_form[testform][variante];
                for(x = 0; x < f->b; x++)
                    for(y = 0; y < f->h; y++)
                    {
                        if(f->data[y][x])
                        {
                            display.Fallingbrick(z+y, 3+x, 0);
                        }
                    }
            }
            display.Present();
            break;
        default:
            DefWindowProc(hwnd, message, wParam, lParam);
            break;
    }
}

int WINAPI WinMain (HINSTANCE hInstance, HINSTANCE hPreviousInstance, LPSTR pCmdLine, int nCmdShow)

{
	MSG msg;
	HACCEL acc;
	WNDCLASSEX wcx;
	wcx.cbSize = sizeof(wcx);
	wcx.lpszClassName = TEXT("Ultris");
	wcx.lpfnWndProc = WindowProcedure;
	wcx.style = CS_VREDRAW | CS_HREDRAW;
	wcx.hInstance = hInstance;
	wcx.hIcon = LoadIcon(hInstance, MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDI_ICON));
	wcx.hIconSm = LoadIcon(hInstance, MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDI_SMALLICON));
	wcx.hCursor = LoadCursor(NULL, IDC_ARROW);
	wcx.hbrBackground = (HBRUSH)(COLOR_WINDOW + 1);
	wcx.lpszMenuName = MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDR_MENU);
	wcx.cbClsExtra = 0;
	wcx.cbWndExtra = 0;

	if(!RegisterClassEx(&wcx))
		return 0;

	//acc = LoadAccelerators(hInstance, MAKEINTRESOURCE(IDC_DIRECTXLERNAPPLIKATION));

	UltrisBruttoHoehe = UltrisNettoHoehe + 2 * GetSystemMetrics(SM_CYSIZEFRAME) + GetSystemMetrics(SM_CYMENU) + GetSystemMetrics(SM_CYCAPTION);
	UltrisBruttoBreite = UltrisNettoBreite + 2 * GetSystemMetrics(SM_CXSIZEFRAME);

	UltrisWindow = CreateWindowEx(0, TEXT("ULTRIS"), TEXT("ULTRIS"), WS_OVERLAPPEDWINDOW & ~WS_MAXIMIZEBOX, CW_USEDEFAULT, CW_USEDEFAULT, UltrisBruttoBreite, UltrisBruttoHoehe, NULL, NULL, hInstance, NULL);
	if(!UltrisWindow)
		return 0;
	MoveWindow(UltrisWindow, (GetSystemMetrics(SM_CXSCREEN) - UltrisBruttoBreite)/2, (GetSystemMetrics(SM_CYSCREEN) - UltrisBruttoHoehe)/2, UltrisBruttoBreite, UltrisBruttoHoehe, TRUE);
	ShowWindow(UltrisWindow, nCmdShow);

	UltrisInstance = hInstance;
	UltrisMenu = GetMenu(UltrisWindow);

    sounds.Initialize(UltrisWindow);
    display.Initialize(UltrisWindow);

    while(TRUE)
	{
		if(PeekMessage(&msg, NULL, 0, 0, PM_NOREMOVE))
		{
			if(GetMessage(&msg, NULL, 0, 0) == 0)
				return 0;
			if(TranslateAccelerator(UltrisWindow, acc, &msg) == 0)
			{
				TranslateMessage(&msg);
				DispatchMessage(&msg);
			}
		}
		else
		{
		    HRESULT hr;
		    hr = display.cooperative();
		    if(hr < 0)
		    {
		        switch(hr)
		        {
		            case DDERR_EXCLUSIVEMODEALREADYSET:
                        Sleep(10);
                        break;
                    case DDERR_WRONGMODE:
                        display.FreeAll();
                        display.Initialize(UltrisWindow);
                        PostMessage(UltrisWindow, WM_PAINT, 0, 0);
                        break;
		        }
		    }
		    else
		    {

		    }
		}

	}
}

das die ganze Resource(der auskommentierte Teil war der den ich noch einigermaßen selbst geschrieben habe(in der Blocks IDE is ja kein Resourcedesigner), der Teil der aktuell in verwendung ist, hab ich aus visual studios kopiert...

// Microsoft Visual C++ generated resource script.
//
#include "resources.h"

#define APSTUDIO_READONLY_SYMBOLS
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Generated from the TEXTINCLUDE 2 resource.
//
#include <windows.h>
#include <afxres.h>
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
#undef APSTUDIO_READONLY_SYMBOLS

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
// German (Germany) resources

#if !defined(AFX_RESOURCE_DLL) || defined(AFX_TARG_DEU)
#ifdef _WIN32
LANGUAGE LANG_GERMAN, SUBLANG_GERMAN
#pragma code_page(1252)
#endif //_WIN32

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Menu
//

IDR_MENU MENU DISCARDABLE
BEGIN
    POPUP "Ultris"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Neues Spiel",                 ID_ULTRIS_NEUESSPIEL
        MENUITEM "Pause",                       ID_ULTRIS_PAUSE
        MENUITEM "Sound",                       ID_ULTRIS_SOUND
        MENUITEM SEPARATOR
        MENUITEM "Ende",                        IDM_EXIT
    END
    POPUP "Einstellungen"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Konfiguration",               ID_EINSTELLUNGEN_KONFIGURATION

    END
    POPUP "Info"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Hilfe",                       ID_INFO_HILFE
        MENUITEM "Highscores",                  ID_INFO_HIGHSCORES
        MENUITEM "Ultris",                      ID_INFO_ULTRIS
    END
END

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Icon
//

// Icon with lowest ID value placed first to ensure application icon
// remains consistent on all systems.
IDI_MAIN                ICON                    "Icon.ico"

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Accelerator
//

IDR_ACCEL ACCELERATORS
BEGIN
    "T",            IDM_TEST,               VIRTKEY, CONTROL, NOINVERT
    VK_ESCAPE,      IDM_EXIT,               VIRTKEY, NOINVERT
    VK_F5,          ID_ULTRIS_SOUND,        VIRTKEY, NOINVERT
END

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Dialog
//

IDD_HILFE DIALOGEX 0, 0, 316, 118
STYLE DS_SETFONT | DS_MODALFRAME | DS_FIXEDSYS | WS_POPUP | WS_CAPTION | WS_SYSMENU
CAPTION "Dialog"
FONT 8, "MS Shell Dlg", 400, 0, 0x1
BEGIN
    DEFPUSHBUTTON   "OK",IDOK,259,97,50,14
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,17,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "F1: Neues Spiel",IDC_STATIC,19,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "F2: Pause(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "F3: Schneller",IDC_STATIC,19,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "F4: Langsamer",IDC_STATIC,19,67,119,8
    LTEXT           "F5: Sound(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,81,119,8
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,173,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "J oder Cursor left:links",IDC_STATIC,175,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "L oder Cursor right: Rechts",IDC_STATIC,175,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "K oder Cursor Down: Linksdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "I oder Cursor Up: Rechtsdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,67,119,8
    LTEXT           "Space: Stein fallen lassen",IDC_STATIC,175,81,119,8
END

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// DESIGNINFO
//

#ifdef APSTUDIO_INVOKED
GUIDELINES DESIGNINFO
BEGIN
    IDD_DIALOG1, DIALOG
    BEGIN
        LEFTMARGIN, 7
        RIGHTMARGIN, 309
        TOPMARGIN, 7
        BOTTOMMARGIN, 111
    END
END
#endif    // APSTUDIO_INVOKED

#endif    // German (Germany) resources
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
// English (U.S.) resources

#if !defined(AFX_RESOURCE_DLL) || defined(AFX_TARG_ENU)
#ifdef _WIN32
LANGUAGE LANG_ENGLISH, SUBLANG_ENGLISH_US
#pragma code_page(1252)
#endif //_WIN32

#ifdef APSTUDIO_INVOKED
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// TEXTINCLUDE
//

1 TEXTINCLUDE
BEGIN
    "resource.h\0"
END

2 TEXTINCLUDE
BEGIN
    "#include <windows.h>\r\n"
    "#include <afxres.h>\0"
END

3 TEXTINCLUDE
BEGIN
    "\r\n"
    "\0"
END

#endif    // APSTUDIO_INVOKED

#endif    // English (U.S.) resources
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////

#ifndef APSTUDIO_INVOKED
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
//
// Generated from the TEXTINCLUDE 3 resource.
//

/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
#endif    // not APSTUDIO_INVOKED

/*#include "ressource.h"
#include <windows.h>

IDI_ICON ICON "Icon.ico"
IDI_SMALL ICON "Icon.ico"

ID_MENU MENU
BEGIN
    POPUP "Datei"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Neues Spiel", IDM_NEWGAME
        MENUITEM "Pause", IDM_PAUSE
        MENUITEM SEPARATOR
        MENUITEM "Schließen", IDM_CLOSE
    END
    POPUP "Einstellungen"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Konfiguration", IDM_CONFIG
    END
    POPUP "Hilfe"
    BEGIN
        MENUITEM "Steuerung", IDM_HELP
        MENUITEM "Highscores", IDM_HIGHSCORES
    END
END
IDD_CONTROLS DIALOG 0, 0, 316, 118
STYLE DS_SETFONT | DS_MODALFRAME | DS_FIXEDSYS | WS_POPUP | WS_CAPTION | WS_SYSMENU
CAPTION "Dialog"
//FONT 8, "MS Shell Dlg", 400, 0, 0x1
BEGIN
    DEFPUSHBUTTON   "OK",IDOK,259,97,50,14
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,17,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "F1: Neues Spiel",IDC_STATIC,19,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "F2: Pause(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "F3: Schneller",IDC_STATIC,19,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "F4: Langsamer",IDC_STATIC,19,67,119,8
    //LTEXT           "F5: Sound(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,81,119,8
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,173,7,136,89
    LTEXT           "J oder Cursor left:links",IDC_STATIC,175,22,119,8
    LTEXT           "L oder Cursor right: Rechts",IDC_STATIC,175,38,119,8
    LTEXT           "K oder Cursor Down: Linksdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,52,119,8
    LTEXT           "I oder Cursor Up: Rechtsdrehung",IDC_STATIC,175,67,119,8
    LTEXT           "Space: Stein fallen lassen",IDC_STATIC,175,81,119,8
END
*/

Der Rest hat damit nix zu tun oder enthält nur die defines^^

Ein Dialog sollte ned DefWindowProc aufrufen, mach das mal weg. Windows ruft automatisch DefDlgProc auf, wenn du in deiner DialogProc FALSE zurückgibst. Und mach das return FALSE ans Ende der Funktion, nicht im Switch Statement.

aber ich hab jetzt herausgefunden, dass der Dialog doch da ist, wenn ich den Taskmanager z.B. öffne dann sehe ich teile der Schriftzüge auf ihm, aber irgendwie scheint das alles entweder abgestürtzt zu sein oder sonst was, es ist zumindest da, aber ich kann nichts mehr amchen und in einem eigenen Fenster sehen wie es sein sollte tue ich es auch nicht

die static kannst mit dem res-style WS_EX_TRANSPARENT transparent machen

MFG Ascharan

danke für den Link

ich lad das Projekt mal hoch, vieleich ist ja jemand so nett sich das ma anzugucken?
www.ysites.de/v5.zip

EXSTYLE WS_EX_OVERLAPPEDWINDOW | WS_EX_TRANSPARENT

sollte eigentlich so sein

CAPTION "Dialog"
FONT 8, "MS Shell Dlg", 400, 0, 0x1
BEGIN
    DEFPUSHBUTTON   "OK",IDOK,259,97,50,14
    GROUPBOX        "Steuerung des Spiels",IDC_STATIC,17,7,136,89,WS_EX_TRANSPARENT
    LTEXT           "F1: Neues Spiel",IDC_STATIC,19,22,119,8,WS_EX_TRANSPARENT
    LTEXT           "F2: Pause(ein/aus)",IDC_STATIC,19,38,119,8,WS_EX_TRANSPARENT

BOOL CALLBACK helpdialog(HWND hwnd, UINT message, WPARAM wParam, LPARAM lParam)
{
    switch(message)
    {
        case WM_COMMAND:
            switch(LOWORD(wParam))
            {
                case IDOK:
                    EndDialog(hwnd, wParam);
                    return TRUE;
            }
            break;
    DefWindowProc(hwnd, message, wParam, lParam);
    return FALSE;
    }
}

Ein Dialog sollte ned DefWindowProc aufrufen, mach das mal weg. Windows ruft automatisch DefDlgProc auf, wenn du in deiner DialogProc FALSE zurückgibst. Und mach das return FALSE ans Ende der Funktion, nicht im Switch Statement.